Having Fun + Marriage

Man, life gets busy.  My husband, Kyle works two jobs, while I stay at home with Lily.  I am so thankful for how hard he works to provide for his family.  But, let's face it: between him working two jobs, me taking care of everything on the home front, paying bills, running errands, cleaning house, keeping up with friends, trying to get sleep at night... it doesn't leave a whole lot of time for us to be "us."

When Kyle and I first were married, we both had lost our jobs right before the wedding.  It was hard being without work the first year of our marriage, but it was also such a blessing.  We spent COUNTLESS hours, just hanging out; talking, laughing, and dreaming.  We seriously would stay up until 4am in the morning, just talking and and dreaming out loud.   I cherish that time so close to my heart.  I really got to know the man I married.  We became best friends and soul mates during that season.  We laid a foundation for our marriage in the Lord that is unshakable, that will last for a lifetime.

Things are of course different now.  And that is okay.  We've entered a new season in our marriage- one that we may not have endless hours to hang out and talk like we used to- but we are still growing.  It is frustrating to have to really fight for "just us time."  But, it does make the moments we are together even more sweeter.

When life is busy like it is, it is so easy to begin to feel like roommates, instead of a married couple who is very much in love.  We both have our responsibilities and commitments, and things constantly requiring our time.  I jokingly sang "Strangers In The Night" to Kyle one night (he didn't appreciate the joke as much as I did.  Oh, well.).

Through this busy season, I've come to realize how important it is to have fun with your husband- even through all the craziness.  I have a tendency to get so wrapped up in my "to-do's" sometimes, that I forget to have a sense of humor, and just have fun with him.  Thankfully, my husband has this incredible child like spirit, that can make anything; any task, or any responsibility just plain fun.  (One of the reasons he is such a great dad!)  Kyle often reminds me that life is too short to be all wound up tight.  Thank God, for Kyle.

So, in efforts to keep our marriage growing and having fun, we consciously made a decision to do fun things together on the weekends.  We try to reserve most of our weekends for just family time, just because we don't see each other all that often.  During the weekends after we put Lily to bed, we pop a bunch of popcorn, break out some chocolate bars, and watch our favorite shows together.  Every once in a while we have my mom watch Lily, so we can go out and get some coffee and talk- just the two of us.

Occasionally, we will just get in the car on Sunday's and drive.  I know, I know... How 1950's is that?  A Sunday drive?!  Yes, Kyle and I are old souls.  But we are okay with that, and we love our Sunday drives.  We drive through the countryside, and just dream out loud about someday owning land, and a home full of our kids... A place where he gets up in the morning to watch the sunrise with a cup of coffee in hand... A place where I have my "nook" where I write books for a living.  It's fun stuff to dream about.

Regardless of where life takes us, or what we do, or even how busy life gets... I know I have the absolute love of my life by my side; ready to take on whatever life throws at us, or where ever God leads...